It Wasn't Until I Did This ESSENTIAL Thing That Any Feelings Of Aloneness Irrevocably Shifted In My Marriage, Even Though I Was The Epitome Of The Isolation Queen.
There's something that every couple goes through that causes disconnection, pain and heartache.
No matter how skilled they are, or how much work they've done, they ALL go through this pain.
We all hurt, we all feel disconnected and painfully separate at times, and they all want a way through it, quickly!
And they have.. found their way to cross that great divide, that brings them to closeness and connection, when they've worked with me.
And the only reason they've been able to do this is because I have walked a similar path.
Truth be told, I came from some pretty profound abuse, trauma, isolation, abandonment and disconnection in my family of origin.
Almost all my clients have some or many of these histories.. at least one of them.
And when you have those kinds of experiences, you can feel alone.
Very Lonely. Isolated.
With no one at your back.
Like a little spaceship out in the great cosmos with no access to earth or ground, isolated, floating in a black hole going nowhere.
And then you get in relationship...and the other person has their version of aloneness...and then it's like an unconsciously co-created fun house of mirrors that you really don't want to go through... but you must, so you can get to the other side....where true love and connection reign.
For my husband and I, at more than one point, it became so painful we thought about splitting up, or one of us sleeping in separate rooms for a while. We both felt so utterly alone and like two ships passing in the night, or islands in the stream, and having kids didn't help either...but it did make us work it out.
I know I'm not alone.
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