I believed I didn't want to have children. I thought there were already so many fatherless children around the world, and having my own children was selfish. At least that was the story I told myself.......... Actually, the real truth was I was terrified of being a father. I felt so ill- equipped and unworthy to be the guardian of another human being. I couldn't even take care of myself. I was partying, irresponsible with money, feeling lost, not knowing how to connect deeply with myself, and therefore not able to connect deeply with others. How could I be a father when I had no idea how to do it?
How could I give everything that was needed to a child, when I didn't even know how to connect with, never mind take care of, my own true needs?
How could I give the love that was needed to a child, and that they deserved, when I didn't even know how to love myself?
The best foundation for training I ever received on how to be a father was not from a person, not from a book or an online course, but from inside myself. Curiosity was the key, curiosity to explore myself, how I became who I was, and what am I capable of changing. By going deeper and deeper into myself, through personal development processes, therapy and meditation, rather than listening to what society tells me being a father is, I felt I found all the tools and resources that I have ever needed.
And the best training? My children......and all children I have the pleasure of coming into contact with. But without all the work beforehand, to prepare the ground, I would have not been open, humble nor present enough to receive their guidance. This stuff really works, and all we need is to make that first step.
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