This is some of what I actually said to someone recently. This isn’t how the conversation started, but I had to say this at the end. Every single time I would talk about something hard going on for me or another bump in our infertility journey, she would literally respond with good news about herself being pregnant or a photo of her ultrasound or something like that. Every single time. And I was done with her upsetting me when she knows every detail of my story. And this was being done in a group message, so I privately texted her and just said that I was happy for her, but her timing felt like a slap in the face. I asked that if she wanted to share that news, could she wait a little longer than right after I shared bad news, or if she needed to share right away, just not to include me in the messages. I told her I needed to protect myself. And I thought maybe she’d understand. Instead, she played the victim and acted like I was hurting her and making her feel bad because she felt attacked and that she could no longer share good news. She was overly dramatic and I was done. So I told her this, along with more. But I would say this to someone again - sometimes we have to protect ourselves. Sometimes we cannot worry about offending others when they are the ones being offensive. Sometimes it’s just too much and we need to stand up for ourselves and put our needs first.